Sari's posts with tag: de mello
Posted by Sari on Feb 14, '07 5:35 AM for everyone 
Malik bin Dinar, sangat marah karena seorang pemuda yang hidup di sebelah rumahnya bertindak kurang ajar. Lama ia tidak berbuat apa-apa. Ia berharap orang lain akan turun tangan. Tetapi setelahperilaku pemuda itu sungguh keterlaluan, maka Malik menegurnya, agar ia mengubah kelakuannya.
Pemuda itu dengan tenang memberitahu Malik, bahwa ia dilindungi oleh sultan dan tak seorang pun dapat menghalangi apapun yang dikehendakinya.
Malik berkata : "Aku sendiri akan mengadu kepada Sri Sultan".
Pemuda itu menanggapi : "Sama sekali tidak ada gunanya. Sebab, Sri Sultan tidak pernah berubah pandangan mengenai diriku".
"Kalau begitu engkau akan kulaporkan kepada Pencipta di surga!" kata Malik.
"Pencipta di surga?", tukas pemuda itu."Ia Maha rahim sehingga tidak akan mempersalahkan aku!"
Malik tidak dapat berbuat apa-apa. Maka ditinggalkannya pemuda itu.
Tetapi beberapa waktu kemudian nama pemuda itu menjadi begitu jelek, hingga orang banyak pun menentangnya. Malik merasa wajib untuk mencoba memperingatkannya lagi. Ketika ia berjalan menuju rumah pemuda itu, ia mendengar Suara dalam batinnya : "Awas! Jangan menyentuh sahabatku. Ia ada dalam perlindunganKu." Malik mejadi bingung. Waktu bertemu muka dengan pemuda itu, ia tak tahu apa yang harus ia katakan.
Pemuda itu bertanya: "Mengapa engkau datang?"
Jawab Malik : "Aku datang untuk menegurmu, tetapi di tengah jalan kudengar Suara yang melarangku untuk menyinggungmu karena engkau berada di bawah perlindunganNya."
Wajah pemuda begajulan itu berubah : "Benarkah Ia menyebut aku sahabatNya?", tanyanya. Tetapi pada saat itu Malik sudah meninggalkan rumahnya.
Bertahun-tahun kemudian Malik berjumpa dengannya di Mekah. Ia begitu tersentuh oleh perkataan Suara itu, sehingga ia membagi-bagikan seluruh harta bendanya dan menjadi pengemis pemgembara.
"Aku datang kemari untuk mencari Sahabatku", katanya kepada Malik. Lalu ia
meninggal.
Tuhan sahabat orang berdosa? Pernyataan ini amat berbahaya, sekaligus berkekuatan luar biasa.
Aku pernah mencobanya pada diriku sendiri, ketika aku berkata : "Tuhan Maha Rahim sehingga tidak akan mempersalahkan aku". Dan tiba-tiba aku mendengar Kabar Gembira pertama kali dalam hidupku.
Posted by Sari on Dec 1, '06 1:09 AM for everyone 
What I'm about to say will sound a bit pompous, but it's true. What is
coming could be the most important minutes in your lives. If you could
grasp this, you'd hit upon the secret of awakening. You would be happy
forever. You would never be unhappy again. Nothing would have the power
to hurt you again. I mean that, nothing. It's like when you throw black
paint in the air, the air remains uncontaminated. You never color the
air black. No matter what happens to you, you remain uncontaminated. You
remain at peace. There are human beings who have attained this, what I
call being human. Not this nonsense of being a puppet, jerked about this
way and that way, letting events or other people tell you how to feel.
So you proceed to feel it and you call it being vulnerable. Ha! I call
it being a puppet. So you want to be a puppet? Press a button and you're
down; do you like that? But if you refuse to identify with any of those
labels, most of your worries cease.
Later we'll talk about fear of disease and death, but ordinarily you're
worried about what's going to happen to your career. A small-time
businessman, fifty-five years old, is sipping beer at a bar somewhere
and he's saying, "Well, look at my classmates, they've really made it."
The idiot! What does he mean, "They made it"? They've got their names in
the newspaper. Do you call that making it? One is president of the
corporation; the other has become the Chief Justice; somebody else has
become this or that. Monkeys, all of them.
Who determines what it means to be a success? This stupid society! The
main preoccupation of society is to keep society sick! And the sooner
you realize that, the better. Sick, every one of them. They are loony,
they're crazy. You became president of the lunatic asylum and you're
proud of it even though it means nothing. Being president of a
corporation has nothing to do with being a success in life. Having a lot
of money has nothing to do with being a success in life. You're a
success in life when you wake up! Then you don't have to apologize to
anyone, you don't have to explain anything to anyone, you don't give a
damn what anybody thinks about you or what anybody says about you. You
have no worries; you're happy. That's what I call being a success.
Having a good job or being famous or having a great reputation has
absolutely nothing to do with happiness or success. Nothing! It is
totally irrelevant. All he's really worried about is what his children
will think about him, what the neighbors will think about him, what his
wife will think about him. He should have become famous. Our society and
culture drill that into our heads day and night. People who made it!
Made what?! Made asses of themselves. Because they drained all their
energy getting something that was worthless. They're frightened and
confused, they are puppets like the rest. Look at them strutting across
the stage. Look how upset they get if they have a stain on their shirt.
Do you call that a success? Look at how frightened they are at the
prospect they might not be reelected. Do you call that a success? They
are controlled, so manipulated. They are unhappy people, they are
miserable people. They don't enjoy life. They are constantly tense and
anxious. Do you call that human? And do you know why that happens? Only
one reason: They identified with some label. They identified the "I"
with their money or their job or their profession. That was their error.
Did you hear about the lawyer who was presented with a plumber's bill?
He said to the plumber, "Hey, you're charging me two hundred dollars an
hour. I don't make that kind of money as a lawyer." The plumber said, "I
didn't make that kind of money when I was a lawyer either!" You could be
a plumber or a lawyer or a business man or a priest, but that does not
affect the essential "I." It doesn't affect you. If I change my
profession tomorrow, it's just like changing my clothes. I am untouched.
Are you your clothes? Are you your name? Are you your profession? Stop
identifying with them. They come and go.
When you really understand this, no criticism can affect you. No
flattery or praise can affect you either. When someone says, "You're a
great guy," what is he talking about? He's talking about "me," he's not
talking about "I." "I" is neither great nor small. "I" is neither
successful nor a failure. It is none of these labels. These things come
and go. These things depend on the criteria society establishes. These
things depend on your conditioning. These things depend on the mood of
the person who happens to be talking to you right now. It has nothing to
do with "I." "I" is none of these labels. "Me" is generally selfish,
foolish, childish -- a great big ass. So when you say, "You're an ass,"
I've known it for years! The conditioned self -- what did you expect?
I've known it for years. Why do you identify with him? Silly! That isn't
"I," that's "me."
Do you want to be happy? Uninterrupted happiness is uncaused. True
happiness is uncaused. You cannot make me happy. You are not my
happiness. You say to the awakened person, "Why are you happy?" and the
awakened person replies, "Why not?"
Happiness is our natural state. Happiness is the natural state of little
children, to whom the kingdom belongs until they have been polluted and
contaminated by the stupidity of society and culture. To acquire
happiness you don't have to do anything, because happiness cannot be
acquired. Does anybody know why? Because we have it already. How can you
acquire what you already have? Then why don't you experience it? Because
you've got to drop something. You've got to drop illusions. You don't
have to add anything in order to be happy; you've got to drop something.
Life is easy, life is delightful. It's only hard on your illusions, your
ambitions, your greed, your cravings. Do you know where these things
come from? From having identified with all kinds of labels!
Posted by Sari on Oct 12, '06 1:45 PM for everyone 
Each time you are anxious and afraid;
it is because you may lose
or fail to get the object of your attachment, isn't it?
And each time you feel jealous,
isn't it because someone may make off with what you are attached to?
And almost all your anger comes from someone standing in the way of your
attachment,
doesn't it?
And see how paranoid you become when your attachment is threatened
- you cannot think objectively;
your whole vision becomes distorted, doesn't it?
Posted by Sari on Oct 12, '06 1:24 PM for everyone 
If you take a look at the way you have been put together
and the way you have been together
and the way you function
you will find that inside your head there is a whole program,
a set of demands about how the world should be,
how you should be and what you should want.
Who is responsible for the programming?
Not you.
It isn't really you who decided even such basics as wants and desires
and so-called needs; your values, your tastes, your attitudes.
It was your parents, your society, your culture, your religion,
your past experiences.
Posted by Sari on Oct 12, '06 1:17 PM for everyone 
Attempt to understand the true nature of worldly feelings,
namely, the feelings of self-promotion, self-glorification.
They are not natural, they were invented by your society and your
culture to make you productive and to make you controllable.
They were meant to produce thrills, excitement – and emptiness.
Observe yourself in the course of the day or a week and think how many
actions of yours are performed, how many activities engaged in that are
uncontaminated by the desire for these thrills, these excitements that
only produce emptiness, the desire for attention, approval, fame,
popularity, success or power.
Posted by Sari on Oct 11, '06 11:14 PM for everyone 
Anthony De Mello wrote The Way to Love which contained profound insights
into the way we live and how we interact with one another.
His explorations cut to the very heart of our existence and question the
values by which we live.
Don't change: Desire to change is the enemy of love.
Don't change yourselves: Love yourselves as you are.
Don't change others: Love all others as they are.
Don't change the world: It is in God's hands and he knows.
And if you do that change will occur
Marvellously in its own way and in its own time
Yield to the current of life unencumbered by baggage.
Posted by Sari on Oct 11, '06 11:01 PM for everyone 
A zealous disciple expressed a desire to teach others the Truth and
asked the Master what he thought about this. The Master said, "Wait".
Each year the disciple would return with the same request and each time
the Master would give him the same reply: "Wait".
One day he said to the Master, "When will I be ready to teach"?
Said the Master, "When your excessive eagerness to teach has left you".
**
MORSEL:
You can preach a better sermon with your life than with your lips. --
Oliver Goldsmith
Posted by Sari on Oct 11, '06 10:56 PM for everyone 
If you wish to be happy the first thing you need is not effort or even
goodwill or good desires but a clear understanding of how exactly you
have been programmed.
Posted by Sari on Oct 11, '06 10:52 PM for everyone 
"Where shall I look for Enlightenment"?
" Here".
" When will it happen"?
"It is happening right now".
"Then why don't I experience it"?
"Because you do not look".
"What should I look for"?
"Nothing, just look".
"At what"?
"Anything your eyes alight upon".
"Must I look in a special kind of way"?
"No. The ordinary way will do".
"But don't I always look the ordinary way"?
" No".
"Why ever not"?
"Because to look you must be here. You're mostly somewhere else".
**
MORSEL:
The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend. -- Henri L.
Bergson
Posted by Sari on Oct 9, '06 9:09 AM for everyone 
All questions at the public meeting that day were about life beyond the
grave.
The Master only laughed and did not give a single answer.
To his disciples, who demanded to know the reason for his evasiveness,
he later said, "Have
you observed that it is precisely those who do not know what to do with
this life who want
another that will last forever?"
"But is there life after death or is there not?" persisted a disciple.
"Is there life before death? - that is the question!" said the Master
enigmatically.
© Anthony de Mello, SJ
* photo by Michelle Sonya Koeswoyo
sepedarodasatu.multiply.com
Posted by Sari on Sep 26, '06 2:33 AM for everyone 
There's nothing so delightful as being aware....
There's nothing so delightful as being aware. Would you rather live in
darkness? Would you rather act and not be aware of your actions, talk
and not be aware of your words? Would you rather listen to people and
not be aware of what you're hearing, or see things and not be aware of
what you're looking at? the great Socrates said, "The unaware life is
not worth living." That's a self-evident truth.
Most people don't live aware lives. They live mechanical lives,
mechanical thoughts--generally somebody else's--mechanical emotions,
mechanical actions, mechanical reactions.
Do you want to see how mechanical you really are? "My, that's a lovely
shirt you're wearing." You feel good hearing that. For a shirt, for
heaven's sake! You feel proud of yourself when you hear that. People
come over to my center in India and they say, "What a lovely place,
these lovely trees" (for which I'm not responsible at all), "this lovely
climate." And already I'm feeling good, until I catch myself feeling
good, and I say, "Hey, can you imagine anything as stupid as that?" I'm
not responsible for those trees; I wasn't responsible for choosing the
location. I didn't order the weather; it just happened. But "me" got in
there, so I'm feeling good. I'm feeling good about "my" culture and "my"
nation. How stupid can you get? I mean that.
I'm told my great Indian culture has produced all these mystics. I
didn't produce them. I'm not responsible for them. Or they tell me,
"That country of yours and its poverty--it's disgusting." I feel
ashamed. But I didn't create it. What's going on? Did you ever stop to
think? People tell you, "I think you're very charming," so I feel
wonderful. I get a positive stroke (that's why they call it I'm O.K.,
you're O.K.). I'm going to write a book someday and the title will be
I'm an Ass, You're an Ass. That's the most liberating, wonderful thing
in the world, when you openly admit you're an ass. It's wonderful. When
people tell me, "You're wrong." I say, "What can you expect of an ass?"
Disarmed, everybody has to be disarmed. In the final liberation, I'm an
ass, you're an ass. Normally the way it goes, I press a button and
you're up; I press another button and you're down. And you like that.
How many people do you know who are unaffected by praise or blame? That
isn't human, we say. Human means that you have to be a little monkey, so
everybody can twist your tail, and you do whatever you ought to be
doing. But is that human? If you find me charming, it means that right
now you're in a good mood, nothing more.
It also means that I fit your shopping list. We all carry a shopping
list around, and it's as though you've got to measure up to this
list--tall, um, dark, um, handsome, according to my tastes. "I like the
sound of his voice." You say, "I'm in love." You're not in love, you
silly ass. Any time you're in love-- I hesitate to say this--you're
being particularly asinine. Sit down an watch what's happening to you.
You're running away from yourself. You want to escape. Somebody once
said, "Thank God for reality, and for the means to escape from it." So
that's what's going on. We are so mechanical, so controlled. We write
books about being controlled and how wonderful it is to be controlled
and how necessary it is that people tell you you're O.K. Then you'll
have a good feeling about yourself. How wonderful it is to be in prison!
Or as somebody said to me yesterday, to be in your cage. Do you like
being in prison? Do you like being controlled? Let me tell you
something: If you ever let yourself feel good when people tell you that
you're O.K., you are preparing yourself to feel bad when they tell you
you're not good. As long as you live to fulfill other people's
expectations, you better watch what you wear, how you comb your hair,
whether your shoes are polished--in short, whether you live up to every
damned expectation of theirs.
Do you call that human?
Posted by Sari on Sep 19, '06 9:37 AM for everyone 
Anthony de Mello memang dikenal luas akan
kepiawaiannya bertutur. Dalam “One Minute Wisdom”-nya
beliau juga bertutur begini:
Kepada seorang siswa yang selalu meminta
jawaban-jawaban darinya, sang Master berkata, "Di
dalam dirimu sendiri, engkau punya semua jawaban atas
setiap pertanyaan yang engkau ajukan —hanya bila
engkau tahu bagaimana menggalinya.”
Dan pada kesempatan lainnya beliau berkata, “Di
‘'Benua Spiritual’, engkau tidak dapat berjalan
menggunakan cahaya dari lentera orang lainnya. Bila
engkau hendak memiminjam punyaku; maka aku akan lebih
memilih untuk mengajarimu membuat lenteramu sendiri.”
Ya....kita memang tak bisa menggunakan lentera-hati
yang lainnya. Apalagi bila kita sebetulnya sudah punya
lentera itu, yang hanya lantaran ketidak-tahuan kita,
kita tak menyadari keberadaannya. Akibatnya, kita
malah terpana dan ingin meminjam lentera yang lainnya.
Sebetulnya, apa yang kita perlukan adalah menemukan
kembali lentera-hati itu, dan minta seseorang
mengajari menyalakannya. Setelah itu, kitapun siap
menggunakannya sendiri. Bahkan, kitapun siap mengajari
para sahabat kita hal yang sama, bila mau.
Apa yang perlu kita lakukan sesudahnya hanyalah
mengisi tangki minyaknya —dengan ketulusan,
ketanpa-pamerihan, cinta-kasih, kemurahan-hati dan
keluhuran budi— dan membersihkan serobong-kacanya dari
jelaga —bentuk-bentuk pemikiran kotor, niat jahat,
kebencian, iri-dengki, keserakahan dan berbagai bentuk
nafsu-keinginan.
Posted by Sari on Jun 9, '06 11:05 PM for everyone Sekelompok wisatawan tertahan di suatu tempat di luar kota
Mereka diberi makan dengan bahan makanan yang sudah lama.
Sebelum menyantapnya makanan itu dicoba dulu dengan memberikan
sebagian kepada seekor anjing.
Tampaknya anjing itu sangat menikmatinya dan tidak ada akibat sampingannya.
Hari berikutnya mereka mendengar bahwa anjing itu mati.
Semua orang menjadi cemas. Banyak yang mulai muntah dan mengeluh
badannya panas atau terserang disentri.
Seorang dokter dipanggil untuk merawat para penderita keracunan makanan.
Dokter itu mulai dengan menanyakan apa yang terjadi dengan anjing itu ?
Diadakan penyelidikan.
Seorang penduduk sambil berlalu berkata :
" Oh, anjing itu dilemparkan ke parit, karena mati terlindas mobil."
" Manusia tidak bereaksi atas kenyataan akan tetapi atas pikiran-pikiran yang ada di dalam kepalanya "
Anthonny de Mello
Doa Sang Katak 2
Posted by Sari on Jun 9, '06 11:00 PM for everyone  Ketika Budha pertama kali mulai pencarian batinnya, ia melakukan banyak mati raga.
Ia duduk bermeditasi di bawah pohon.
Pada suatu hari dua orang pemain musik lewat dekat pohon itu.
Yang satu sedang berbicara dengan yang lain.
"Jangan menyetel senar sitarmu terlalu kuat, nanti putus. Jangan juga memasangnya terlalu lembek, nanti tidak dapat berbunyi. Setellah dengan ukuran tengah-tengah"
Kata-kata itu sangat kuat menyentuh hati sang Budha, sampai mengubah seluruh cara pendekatan hidup batinnya. Ia yakin bahwa kata-kata itu ditujukan kepadanya. Sejak saat itu ia berhenti dari matiraganya yang keras dan mulai mengikuti jalan yang mudah dan ringan, yaitu jalan keugaharian.
Pendekatannya ke arah penerangan batin disebut Jalan Tengah.
Anthonny de Mello
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